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E102: Mating Season

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It’s Mating Season! But don’t go calling your partner just yet. At least not until you heard our conversation with Lexi Sylver. She just released a new book of erotic stories and adventures and it’s steaming hot! We had such a fun conversation and course, lots of laughs talking about her book. Trying to figure out which stories were fictional and which ones really happened was challenging, but they were all very hot. We were very pleased with the fact she did include a few hot sexy stories about bisexual men which do not read or hear about in erotic stories very often. Of course we did reminisce our past adventures with Lexi and how COVID-19 has change our world in regards to travel, conferences and social gatherings.

About Lexi Sylver

Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of Mating Season and All the Queen’s Men. She enjoys having a kinky and unconventional lifestyle and sharing her stories and experiences with others. Lexi hosts and produces SDC.com’s sexuality podcast, Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver. As an entrepreneur, advocate, educator, public speaker and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she journeys the world to attend travel events and conferences. She regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, SDC.com and her personal blog.

Instagram: lexisylver
Twitter: @lexisylver
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Amberly Rothfield
On sex positive me explore all aspects of sex and relationships ranging from fetishes and BDSM to ethical non monogamy and LGBTQ issues. Sex positive me stigmatizes sexual practices and relationships while reconciling reality with myths and misconceptions. Our goal is to educate, entertain and be advocates of sexual freedom, and now here’s your host, Angelique and john Luna.

Angelique
Hey everybody, its Angelique still in quarantine lockdown going insane haven’t killed john yet but he’s here.

You can hear how the voice just got a little more tense there than normal. I am happy and alive and unharmed currently, and having fun as best we can in our in our new environment.

Very busy fun. Yeah, this quarantine has kept those very busy because I decided to do mastermind business program trying to create new content redoing the website, doing coaching packages, all things that we haven’t been able to do then videos and webinars and

webinars is a new big thing now.

Yeah. So when we thought everyone else was watching Netflix and Hulu and Amazon Prime, we’re like, what was that

there is a good thing coming out of this whole event. I can say zoom meeting. And now no one knows what everyone knows what I mean. Yeah. Because six months ago, I’d say zoom meeting and I get what’s this zone? You mean zoom that that Microsoft thing that like Apple got with the music? No,

no. So john had so much fun reading our next author’s book. I’ll let you do the intros and her bio.

Oh, I’m gonna I’m gonna wing this bio, because let’s see we’ve met her at sex down south. A year and a half going on two years ago.

2018

John
was it?

Angelique
Yes, it was 2018 there because that’s when we presented and we podcast

Let’s see she works with SDC.com and I know a lot of our listeners know, she also has her own podcast, Coach model and now author Lexi Sylver. Welcome.

Lexi Sylver
Thank you. Yeah, there’s there’s a lot to add to that because it’s um that’s it. That’s what it is just sex there sex is a busy world and so I’m busy. It’s good. Thank you so much for

Angelique
educator and all those other stuff. But it’s kind of like when you when you go and you kind of get that trail of things in your neighborhoods on your name tag that mine has just passed my belt line.

Lexi Sylver
Well, thank you guys so much for having me. I love you both. I’m just very happy to be here on hanging out with you guys.

Angelique
We’re very happy to have you. But okay, I wanted to go right to it because I read it in the last five days. I read the book, mating season and it is a collection of erotic tales, which I’ve read before, but haven’t you put it you walked into in the room and said, Is it that good? Why are you masturbating? my lovely wife

You see when I think erotic books, it’s a few in the mood, especially some of these stories are very hot and very intellectual that really gets to him. Like, how real is this? How possible is this? You know, to me it would be stimulating, but my husband has a tendency of taking it to the end to intellectual analyze, okay, how is this written? What is it about? I’m like what the hell!

love you too, babe. But

Lexi Sylver
I told you Angelique, it’s just you know, he’s stashing it away for later in his spank bank so you can access it anytime and you know, do whatever he wants with it. But maybe Yeah, you just want to process it on a quote, intellectual level, if you will. First.

Angelique
Well, I found it was like a lot of books. That Yes, intellectual level. I heard it, I loved it. And as I was hearing the stories, I was like, This is stuff I can use. Like, forget putting the coat the coaching what I do aside, just being a married or single guy, um, these are stories that we’re not, you know, letters to penthouse stuff that never happens. They all felt like they could happen.

Lexi Sylver
A lot of them did happen. Many of them did happen.

Angelique
See, that was leading into a question later on of how many of these are real?

We heard her podcasts and read some of her blog. You could say, Okay, I could probably tell which one’s are real and which one’s are fantasy, but yeah.

Lexi Sylver
Well, there is one story that for sure did not actually happen in the way that it happened. The physical acts have happened for sure. But It’s called succubus it’s toward the end of the book and it involves Lucifer. And it’s an succubus, basically demons. So that is not based on personal experience. But the physical things that happen in the story, of course are so yeah.

Angelique
So tell us how did the book come about? Oh, yeah, you now comes the laughter,

Lexi Sylver
it’s funny, It’s funny just because it’s been coming about for about for over 15 years for sure I’ve been, these are all collections and these stories that I’ve written in there are 16 or more years old. So I yeah, so I can stash them away for a rainy day. I’ve been wanting to create meeting season for a while and actually, the first ever version of meeting season was published in I want to say 2002. And by published I mean, I went to the local staples or Office Depot or whatever it was, and I got it printed and bound there. The cover had been designed by a friend of mine, I made he made like 1012 copies and give them away to my closest friends. And that was it. And then I did try it another version later on, which I never ended up getting bound. And then I just got busy with life. And I still continued writing, but I didn’t have time to assemble them into a collection of anything. And then I decided I was going to do it. And I did it. And I did it done like so now collection, one of hundreds of other stories that I have for multiple other volumes of mating season. So I’m very excited about that. So it’s been a lifelong project and adult life long project, I would say.

Angelique
So writing your erotic stories is I guess it would be called an outlet in a lot of ways that have just been collected over the years, and now put together into a book for us.

Lexi Sylver
Oh yeah, for sure. For me, writing in general as an outlet, even just writing in a journal and like trying to piece of my my thoughts together a little bit, get more insight into things that I’m feeling and thinking. I love writing. I’ve always I’ve been writing forever, erotica was definitely, for me a way also, especially now, you know, in quarantine to explore fantasies and scenarios and things that I want to have happen or things that have happened that I just want to reflect upon because they were really hot. So it’s an outlet for me to channel that sexual energy at a time like this when I can’t really go out and have an orgy or safely go out and have an orgy I should say. So, you know, I think it’s fantastic. I think anybody can use erotic stories as an outlet just in a positive way. And writing in general, of course, but I mean, erotica and to explore your fantasies and you know, as I like to say, explore your sexuality. I think it’s a great outlet for anybody.

Angelique
Now has your husband benefited from the results of this?

Lexi Sylver
My husband has been benefiting we’ve been together for a while. We have been married for 15 years you’ve been together for oh god over 15 years actually. So I know when we’re non monogamous as well, so consensually non monogamous, so he has benefited his entire time being in any kind of relationship with me because I’ve always been this way. So from when he knew me when I was younger, and till now, you know, he’s been benefiting over the years in so many different ways. He he’s he says he’s a lucky man, I think I’m very lucky too, because he lets me take these things out on him. And I think that’s great. And he lets me you know, go out and do whatever I want he we have that freedom in our relationship. So, you know, we’ve both benefited by having more I guess, desire or spice in our relationship, you know, continuously over the time that we’ve been together, but you know, also he loves seeing me be kind of accomplishing the things that I want and fulfilling my fantasies. So he loves that. Yeah. So we both benefited in a number of ways.

Angelique
I was just always concerned. It’s like not again when it’s like no, no, I can’t handle another fantasy. No.

It’ll take a while for me to get there.

Oh, well, well, there was times when I had a really bad day at work and I just came home and slammed you and I’m like lets just have sex, but that’s that’s how I relieve my stress. Yeah, I didn’t even have a chance to say hi, I love you. It’s just like

To be completely honest, and with quarantine, honestly, being home, you lose track of days, but you also kind of lose track of that. Because, of course they’re airing stuff they don’t normally air and they’re doing series. So sometimes you end up you know, we’ll go to bed like our normal which is about 11 o’clock 1130. Next thing you know, you go to bed at three o’clock. So the hours are all messed up. And to put to continue on what you said that was two nights ago. Where I wasn’t sleeping so well because, you know, we were up a few nights sleeping off, and I just happened to roll over. And you’re staring at me wide awake. And you looked at me and you said one word sanics

Lexi Sylver
so Angelique, it’s a stress relief and apparently it’s, you know, your your dosage of, you know, sexual sleeping pills or your sleeping recipe or something. I’m not speaking English right now. But you know what I mean? It’s, it helps you sleep. It helps you sleep.

Angelique
Well. No, no, see, it’s the contrary. The actually the opposite. It does give me a jolt of energy.

Lexi Sylver
Oh,

Angelique
can’t believe it like energizes me. You know, the whole action. It’s one of those like, you know, every morning I’m like, Okay.

Yeah, that’s why she loves morning sex. I like night sex. But she’s also a later owl than me. So I’m okay going to bed 10:00, 10:30, 11:00 and I’ll go lay down and think she’ll be here in a few minutes. This is more towards the beginning as he shows up two hours later like wake up I’m ready and I’m like, I’m not

Lexi Sylver
oh my god You sound just like me Angelique.

Angelique
And you know and there’s been times he runs in fear of terror it’s very like no woman i don’t want to have to have sex let me sleep

Lexi Sylver
Okay, we all need our sleep. Okay, we all have our times our times that it’s suitable or that we’re in the mood or able to perform so. When I’m exhausted when I’m exhausted, forget it. I’ll just lie they’re like you can do whatever you want to me if you want to starfish fine. Otherwise, we’ll wait till tomorrow and it’ll be more active and octopus like so.

Angelique
That’s called necrophilia. I’m tired here you go, necrophilia.

So you have questions about the pool hall?

Well, I was going through and here’s the thing. I went ahead and I started reading the book. And then of course, things get a little busy. So I found that my iPad different it’ll do to text to read. And I first hit it, and it was the standard read. Sounds like a robot and no one should ever read erotica to the voice of, She was laying on the bed and

Lexi Sylver
oh my god.

John
So I made it through three paragraphs and I was laughing my ass off. Apparently they made some leaps and bounds because I actually found the voice called Eva. Oh, yeah, she was pretty hot in my mind.

Lexi Sylver
Oh, Ava. Okay, so Ava has been reading my book to you.

John
She has been

Lexi Sylver
Oh, what a dirty bitch. I love it.

Angelique
Well, one of the things I did love about your book is the variety of locations. Because it wasn’t just the same story going over and I don’t want to give too much away to the listeners. But there was a story in a pool hall, there was a voyer story, there was a little threesome, and then it goes into BDSM and a little, you know, non monogamy. He even touched a little bit on compersion

Lexi Sylver
Mm hmm.

John
Which was like you hit you hit all the dirty notes and hit the range of topics. This is great.

Lexi Sylver
Thanks, I tried it actually gets progressively more dirty as you get to the end of the book. And yeah, it has all of those things. I just wanted to throw a little bit of variety in there because I mean, I’ve written so many stories, so bit of this and a bit of that and just kind of change it up. You’ll notice too that sometimes the narration is different and it’s so it’s a scenarios but also Yeah, the narration, the characters, the everything. I just thought the fantasies in general so I try to switch it up a little bit. Um for you know all the dirty perverts out there who want to relate to the story. There’s a little something for everybody. A little voyeurism, little BDSM little exhibitionism. You know, some good old fashioned regular sex some good old fashioned regular threesome?

John
Regular threesomes?

Lexi Sylver
Yeah, great. There’s good. There’s a really hot group sex scene as well. Um, I Well, I guess you could consider threesomes group sex. I just call them threesomes. But yeah,

Angelique
it’s entry level. Yeah,

yeah. So so it’s the entry drug?

Lexi Sylver
Yes, it is. It is. Now for people in the non monogamous community for sure threesomes are the usually the first experience that they have. And typically, as we’ve discussed before, on my podcast, too, it’s usually you know, a man and two women because that’s apparently the fantasy. So often that is the first entry level thing that a lot of swingers or people in non monogamous relationships will try for the first time. A lot of not everyone, of course not everyone.

Angelique
Yeah, that’s us because we’ve only done the two male and one female threesomes we haven’t done the two females and male so

John
but what’s funny is

Lexi Sylver
it’s all hot. It’s all hot.

Angelique
We we’ve done the threesomes, the foursomes the sixsomes. I think at one time The party was it was a private party. We capped at an 18.

Yeah.

John
So and all the things in between. It’s they’re all fun, and they’re all just a different kind of fun, and a lot of it is is getting along with the people there.

Angelique
Yes, the chemistry

The chemistry is super important.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah. Yeah. If you have no chemistry, then there’s there’s no desire, there’s no wanting to do anything. So having that that chemistry For me, it starts sometimes it’s just very physical sometimes it’s intellectual if I sit down have a conversation, I like what you’re saying to me. Then my brain turns on and then I’m turned on and then the rest is history. I’m very cerebral like that. So, but sometimes you just see somebody you’re just like, oh, there’s something there, lets fuck. So yeah, yeah, yeah, I those groups situation sometimes you don’t have chemistry with every single person unless you’re the one organizing the event or you happen to know everyone at the event and you you know, really hand chose those people. Sometimes you get into a group situation, you just don’t you’re not clicking with everyone. That’s okay, too. So, but chemistry is, is crucial. Otherwise, what’s the point? If you’re not enjoying yourself? What’s the point?

Angelique
True. I totally agree with that. And even I mean, we’ve gone through so many different areas in go in the swinger community that sometimes some pockets of the states is dead. And we’re like, this is so flatline what’s wrong with it, and We started question about us. But then we go to another part. And it’s like, hoppin, and we have chemistry with everybody from all walks of life. And we’re like, Okay, what is wrong, but it is, it could be regional. It could be, you know, where they grew up or whatever. I just don’t know.

John
It’s finding the right people.

Angelique
Yeah.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah. And finding them at the right times, because I’ve had situations where I met somebody the first time and it did, we didn’t click, and then we met again, and we did and then another time, and then we did it. So it depends on mood and the kind of feel that you get from the I’m big about vibes, but don’t get a good vibe from you. Or I’m getting a weird vibe or something’s, something’s mismatched, like you know, body language wise, you know, then I don’t know that doesn’t really interest me. But people are different. Sometimes they have a bad day and then their vibes are all weird. And then you know, so yeah, I’ve definitely had those experiences to

Angelique
want to take a little quick break.

John
Yes, for the sponsors. Yeah, right back.

Angelique
We’ll be right back.

Hey, john, I want to get a new toy.

John
Okay, so let’s go to Fairvilla.

Angelique
But I don’t want to waste time trying to find out what goes with what?

Well, there’s Fairvilla University and their staff is very well educated and helpful.

Okay. But how about if I just want to go to a party instead?

Then go to their website because on their calendar, they list all their events,

but I don’t want to spend a lot of money.

John
Have you heard of their loyalty program?

Angelique
Oh, yeah, that thing on my keychain that makes everyone blush every time they see it.

John
That’s the one.

Angelique
Let’s go.

John
Well, they have over five locations in Central Florida. Which one do you want to go to?

Angelique
Fairvilla. For pleasure, fun, and fantasy

Well, I think we should segue from group sex to one of our favorite subjects that Lexi suggested

bisexual

John
bisexuality. You have a couple of hot bisexual scenes in your book

Angelique
and men

Yes man and bisexuals too, bisexual men and women

It’s not commen to read about bisexual men bisexual women are a dime a dozen. No offense on that part, but to really read about bisexual men with women who are also bi or not bi it’s Yeah, it’s hot.

Lexi Sylver
It is hot. That’s why I write about it. It’s, I guess, I would say that a lot of women are also really turned on by the idea of two men together. It’s just I don’t know, I find it super hot, which is why there’s a story in my book that involves male bisexuality, I have a lot more stories like that coming eventually and future volumes of mating season. But for now, this is just a little taste and I didn’t go too deeply into it. I could, but it is very saucy. And I love the idea of being able to write about anything I want, including male bisexuality because I have such a passion for defending bisexual men in the lifestyle in, you know the consensually non monogamous lifestyle. I have a lot of friends who are male who do not openly identify as being bisexual because it’s not as socially acceptable as a woman saying, you know, Hey, I’ll play with men and women, right? So I love writing about it because it exists, it’s hot, and it deserves to be talked about a lot more openly. So, yeah,

Angelique
we definitely need to get rid of that shame. Um, one thing I’ll say is we’re active on a site you’re very familiar with called SDC. And we both identify as bisexual and we put we are open to single men, but we’re looking for bi men and I usually get two three emails a month on it and I can say in the last almost a year at this point, not a single one has in their profile bisexual.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah,

John
they’ll say they’re bisexual and I look at the profile and go, but it says straight like, well, I just don’t put it out there for advertising.

Lexi Sylver
Hmm well some some guys also identify more as being hetero flexible, depending on the person the scenario. But yeah, they just won’t announce it. If there’s no announcement about they’re not they don’t feel as comfortable saying that they’re bisexual or hetero flexible or whatever versus straight, which really sucks. Why should not people feel like they can’t express themselves and who they are, their sexuality is a part of them. So, you know, it’s, it’s really bothers me that men in the lifestyle can’t openly express their desire or anything for other men, especially in the presence. You know, when you go to a play party if it’s typically mostly heterosexual couples who are there, and mostly only the women who are identifying openly as being bisexual, you won’t usually see a lot of men playing with each other depends on the size of the party and how well the people in know each other, but even if the desire is there, you often just won’t see it. And it it’s something that there’s a there’s a desire for it. Men want this women want to watch this we all want to be a part of this. So what is it what is holding us back we’re supposed to be very open minded but so that really bothers me.

Angelique
And it bothered us for such a long time and we got kicked out here in our in our area from that because we had a lot of great friends that we met we hang out you know, not only at parties, we just you know, social gatherings but the minute you know john feel came out because hey, we’re friends. I’m bi sexual they dropped us like a hot potato. We’re like what we played, we had the swords touch. I mean

that that was Yeah, I was going back about what 2012 the one thing I will say that I was very pleased with and then I got confused about was we went to New Orleans for Naughty New Orleans. And for the first time that event we volunteered. So we part of volunteering as we showed up early and we did a we helped set up. So we help you know, make the beds in the playroom and get everything set up. And they had a bi room and it wasn’t mini it was fair size. It had about eight beds in it. And I thought this were both each other like this is fantastic. It’s a place acceptable for bi men. And I wasn’t offended it just how many people walked in there and said, Oh, I thought it meant by women and I’m like, No, that’s everywhere in New Orleans.

Yeah, that’s all the rooms going on here. I mean, the theme rooms that they have were you know very diverse very, I mean, I think the one that we found interested but never went in was a blackout room. So you go in and it was pitch black so you couldn’t see anyone is all touch so it’s just like okay,

Lexi Sylver
Interesting. That’s that’s very open and it’s funny that you said you know everywhere in New Orleans is the No, it’s all bisexual women. Yes, there but not but I just like want to add in because some people who might be listening who aren’t in the lifestyle might make this assumption that all women in lifestyle are bi, right, even though they know, they know, you know, like maybe there are the exceptions, but it’s not the case don’t make assumptions. I I’m pansexual so I mean, I’m bi Plus, I guess. But you know, it’s um, I do have a fair amount of girlfriends who are in lifestyle who are just interested in couples or playing with or playing with, you know, the man of a couple or just single men, and they’re not into women and that’s totally fine. So yeah, something for everybody. Like I said before,

Angelique
oh, yeah, definitely. And and also definitely respect people’s boundaries and activities. If they whatever they prefer to do just because they’re deciding not to go down on someone doesn’t automatically mean oh well you’re not bisexual, you’re not pansexual. And that’s just one activity out of how many other things? That’s what always makes me scratch my head. It’s like, wait a minute, wait a minute. So, kissing is okay, but if I don’t go down, then that means I’m not or vice versa.

Lexi Sylver
Mm hmm.

Angelique
You know, the limitations that people put on what you should or should not do? is very judgmental.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah. He’s no Go ahead, john,

Angelique
I would say but it also works the other way that when people hear I’m openly bisexual, it’s like, here’s a guy like, and? Again, it is a free for all. And one of the things we will always tell people first exploring the lifestyle even in the lifestyle is you should not do anything you’re not comfortable with.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah, absolutely. And like I said before, you know, if you’re not going to enjoy yourself, what’s the point? So if you’re not feeling comfortable doing something and you’re, you feel pressured into it, or you feel like oh, Well, I’m in an orgy. And it’s only this person that I’m not really attracted to. But for the group dynamic, I’m just going to take one for the team, you’re not going to really enjoy it. So then just don’t do it. It’s okay. You can say no, it’s not a big deal. I think though, I think there was an issue with people feeling bad about saying no, when it comes to scenarios like that, I’ve heard a lot of stories. I’ve done it, you know, I’m not going to say I haven’t I’ve done it in the past, which is why I know I’m not doing it again. So, you know, that’s it, I felt in a particular situation for the group dynamic, just to kind of take one for the team and it was okay. It was a great night, um, with that particular scenario was okay, it wasn’t the the high point of the evening. But then I just decided if it doesn’t make me burn with passion, and it’s not something I really, really want to do, then I’m not going to do it. So that’s a Yeah, that’s the new mentality I got, you know, you make a mistake, trial and error. You learn your lesson. You play better next time.

Angelique
I think that’s one thing we always keep telling couples, it’s like, go for it if something went wrong, do a recap. Now after you had your date or after you gone out to the club, you know, sit down compare notes. What did you like? What do you didn’t like, what did you learn for future ones? Because I don’t think there’s enough people preaching about the recap. You know, what we need to discuss, this is what I learned. This is what I want to do, or, you know, why did you hold that back? If you want to explore, you know?

Lexi Sylver
Yeah, and I, go ahead John,

Angelique
I say, but it’s also important to share the hotness of it.

Lexi Sylver
Hmm.

John
Because that can go ahead and lead into a great sexual experience of Hey, remember what almost happened Saturday night or did happen, and that can so it’s like reading your book. It gets you in the mood and gets you right in there.

Angelique
Yes,

Lexi Sylver
I love it. Yes, you do need to recap for sure. And I think you know that And it’s something I talk about on my podcast all the time into my all my coaching clients is the communication aspect of any relationship is the most important but in consensually non monogamous relationships, it’s extra extra important for communication because you are playing with other people there are other elements outside of your relationship where that are involved other people and feelings are at play right just like any other couple even monogamous couples Yes Oh, feelings are always at play but you’re going out there you might have a negative experience it doesn’t mean that you can’t come back from it but having conversations about you know, maybe I felt kind of you know, upset because you were paying more attention to this person or you disappeared. During this orgy, where did you go? Like kind of thing? You know, there’s a lot of different things but talking about it and making a better experience the next time is definitely important. And you know, those sexy moments. Oh,

Angelique
something fell off the wall. Don’t worry about it.

Lexi Sylver
That was crazy.

Angelique
We redid our office and put up a few new decorations and apparently one of them decide to go Harry Carrey in the middle of an interview.

Lexi Sylver
I love it, it happens okay, just wanted attention. Yeah, but um you know being able to just I mean, I don’t know I don’t know I’ll let you pick up the ball from where it was before

Angelique
well I was going with with the hotness of it all

Lexi Sylver
yeah yeah no it is well even you know in between times you go out and play with other people talking about what happened like we remember that time we were at the club and this happened like you said exactly. You know, it’s it’s like foreplay for the next time. It really gets you riled up you know, so that definitely keeps things spicy over a longer period of time. You could go out to the club one time or to an event or a to an event something like Naughty New Orleans or whatever you could reach play that for like a year, just going over all the stuff that happened and oh, wow, remember this. And that’s just leads to such hot sex between, you know, well couples or partners who are in non monogamous relationships. Yeah.

Angelique
Well, I would say we’re at a time now just coming at the end of the forced home confinement. But like you said, a lot of us are not going out for weeks months, possibly throughout the rest of the year. Just given given the situation. And that’s put a lot of stress on relationships, monogamous or non monogamous.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah.

John
And it’s sometimes hard not to want to run out to a swing club, but we’re, you know, we’re, we’re playing it safe, but we’re trying to go ahead and supplement that again, and keeping the romance alive between us and the hotness alive with books with porn with movies, but also, again, re bringing up those old experiences.

Lexi Sylver
Mm hmm. Yeah, and that, like, you know, that’ll keep you going. It’ll keep you warm, let’s say on those cold winter nights. You know, it’s summer, but you know what I mean? Um, yeah, it’s it’s, it’s a great tool.

Angelique
Yeah, we’re in Florida, but it doesn’t get too cold. But yes, we still need that.

We can still have a sexy time, come on.

John
Damn right we do.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah. And you deserve it.

Angelique
And I think as people forget that you do have permission to have sexy times. feel sexy and whatever environment you’re in, either at home in PJs or with a sexy dress or dress up. I mean, you the way you feel is what you exude to others, and then they just feel like okay, I want to do this.

Well, it had this, this quarantine has given us an opportunity. When it started. I made the joke of the good news is I don’t have to wear pants anymore. And I haven’t, I haven’t put on a pair of pants. The quarantine began I do wear shorts.

Lexi Sylver
So our Oh say wearing shorts. I’m like, are you pantsless right now. While we’re having this conversation

John
no I

Lexi Sylver
I wouldn’t know

Angelique
No I have something on but I will again walking around a little bit unclothed sexy. I did go to Amazon order a few more things that you thought was sexy, walking around the house in them your biker shorts. Yes, yes.

Lexi Sylver
Oooooooh,

John
so it definitely it’s a little different but it has been hot as hell

Lexi Sylver
whatever works for you guys if spandex is your kink, let’s do it.

Angelique
Yeah, like we need more photos of him in his bike wear

is that why you encouraged me to go biking? You just want to see me get dressed coming and going.

Yeah. Taking a few videos of him going on his bike I was like, hey!!

Lexi Sylver
is that your new porn Angelique?

Angelique
Sexy arms. It’s sexy butt you know, so yeah,

flattery will get you everywhere, ladies.

Lexi Sylver
Oooooh.

John
So let’s see besides the book, you do it a lot with SDC, you’re doing the podcast, you’ve been busy. I hear about people who are like doing nothing during like, oh god, there’s nothing to do during quarantine. I’m like, Man, I’ve been busy.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah, I’ve been busier. I think, well, I just had helped that I just launched a book, right, um, and all the things that come with that, because that definitely, in and of itself is busy. But I don’t know, I think even just with SDC. You know, I’m the media director. We have tons of authors and contributors from all around the world, like yourselves who provide content for our members, podcasts, videos, articles. So we’ve still been getting a steady stream of that. And there’s a lot of great stuff in development. So we’ve been busy planning for the future. And you know, on my own, I’ve been, you know, just enjoying writing articles appearing on podcasts like yours and doing things like that and running little events like that. I have to speak in cocktails and erotic tales, which is so fun. It’s gonna be a lot of fun. So I’m keeping busy and I don’t know how not to do that anyway, but I’ve been busier during quarantine I feel I’m not really sure why that is. It’s just I’ve been trying to take a step back but then it just doesn’t work. Maybe not trying hard enough.

Angelique
I agree. I feel either no cuz I’m just like, I cannot like okay, where am I not stepping back because yeah, I get a little like FOMO of hearing people it’s like all I have nothing to do. There’s nothing Oh, I’m like, really? What’s the heck?!

Lexi Sylver
Well, some people don’t have motivation to do anything right now. So that’s a separate thing, right? Some people are just like, I’m not getting anything done. I can’t they can’t focus. They open a book, they can’t read it. They can’t you know, focus even on like a TV show or anything like that. Because you know, we’re we’re stressed we all respond to it in different ways. So some people you know, it productivity is on it is super important, you know, especially at a time like this. And it’s something we value a lot. For me, it’s just, I, I just love what I do. So I enjoy it so much and I just kind of dive in and then you know, I get busy as a consequence of that. But it you know, I also enjoy downtime we all need it and especially when you’re burnt out and exhausted and stressed and feeling all kinds of things. Um, yeah, I don’t blame people for you know, for anything for not being able to get anything done or not wanting to do anything. Now.

Angelique
So it’ll be interesting. Once all the swing clubs start opening up and be the mass exodus. No, not exodus is going

Well, last week, things started opening up and me and my brother in law went to the shooting range. Well, just again, haven’t been out in a while. It’s something he goes a lot. I haven’t been in a while but I’m very familiar with guns. And we just shot at target practice. Is the while in line, I realized a couple in front of us. And then another couple I heard go on across the way, had never shot a gun before in their lives. And they were there, which doesn’t make me feel safe as long as all these. But I’m curious going now to the swing world, if there’s a lot of people who have been inside for months who now have been with their partners, or please converse with their partners, maybe remotely, that are now getting this push that they are going to take this step and maybe we are going to see more of a people wanting to live while they can.

Lexi Sylver
I’m already seeing that because I get messages all the time on SDC and anywhere else, saying, hey, I’ve been quarantining for two weeks, I’m clean slash safe, you want to hang out or you want to meet up? No, that’s not totally not. So, you know, I’m already seeing that people are still for whatever reason doing these things. So yes, they There will absolutely be people continuing to do these things. And you will definitely see people who do venture into doing this kind of thing, even if it means going to a swingers club and wearing a mask and attempting to, you know, be as careful as possible. I’ve heard all kinds of swingers telling me this, this is this is their plan. For me, it’s not a feasible thing. I don’t I, it’s all or nothing. If I can’t do all the things, it’s very hard for me to do just a limited range. So I would rather just continue to enjoy my time with my nesting partner slash my own body. I’ve been using my body as a playground, so but people will do it, people will venture out and I hope it doesn’t lead to like another surge of cases. And, you know, I hope people will be as safe as humanly possible and make, I guess, take risks in a as you know, a calculated way is possible if that’s even a possible thing in this kind of case. So

Crossing my fingers a lot.

John
We’re going to possibly see more people taking that step. And you know, they’ll live in their lives a little more in a safe fashion. But you bring up a good point. Kissing for us in our relationships is a very important thing. And I just can’t see going to a swing going to a club bar. I’m probably wearing just my shoes and a mask. That just would seem a little bit weird.

Well, you can see

Lexi Sylver
Hey, ever, like, you know, we were saying before I was I was joking about your spandex kink. Some people are starting to develop a fetish for these knots, or if they didn’t already have one. Just say, just saying, but I’m not one of those people. So and yes, kissing is important for me too. Definitely. I love connecting that way.

Angelique
Yeah, cuz I know some couples who say no kissing because that’s their intimate connection. You can do anything else but no lip kissing

you just want to talk about what your intimate connection to me is.

Which is?

John
She claims is my belly button.

Angelique
Oh yeah.

Lexi Sylver
Doing what to your belly button?

Angelique
No one can touch it. No one can put their finger anywhere near it.

John
No, that’s like that’s her thing.

Angelique
Yeah.

Lexi Sylver
Okay, why don’t whatever works for you guys. Yeah.

Angelique
You can have the rest of them. It’s just that is my territory is just like Yeah, I think so.

Thank you very much for coming and being on the show. Um, where can people reach you and where people buy your book?

Lexi Sylver
Hmm. Well, people can find me on LexiSylver.com that’s Lexi with an I and silver with a Y and you can find all the links for my book, my events, my podcasts, my sex toys, everything on that site and on social media at Lexie silver. I’m on Instagram and Twitter and Facebook mostly. So find me on those and yeah, I would. I’m so happy to have have had a nice little chat with you guys again, it’s been way too long. So I really appreciate you having me on the show again.

Angelique
And what other events people could find? Because I know we’re in the online event world.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah, I have an event coming up. This weekend. I’ll be doing it. I’ll be doing them every now and then. So you can check my site for details. I have one. I’m starting this weekend called cocktails and erotic tales. And I’m going to read excerpts from my very dirty novel and go over I guess how it was created. And I chose a cocktail for the night as well as a cute little feature of it, too. I’ll be drinking while I do all of this stuff. So yeah, I have. I’m very excited. I’ve got a good amount of people coming for my first one. So I’m very excited. Let’s see if I can get through the sex without laughing so hard the sex scenes. We’ll see.

Angelique
We have faith in you. So are you thinking about sharing the cocktail recipe so in case people want to join along?

Lexi Sylver
Yeah, it’s on right now if you’re part of my event you can see it I always post it right right before the event. It’s already up there Yeah, the one for the sub this week is already up there.

John
Now Saturday nights now taken.

Angelique
So by the time our listeners hear that it will be already passed but then

John
she’ll do it again.

Angelique
She’ll do it again.

Lexi Sylver
I will be continuing to do them so you can check my site for details for all my dates coming up.

John
When it comes to drinks and sex entails I rarely pass them off.

Lexi Sylver
Yeah, those are my favorite too.

John
Well, thank you very much.

Lexi Sylver
Thank you guys very much.

Angelique
Thanks. Bye.

Lexi Sylver
Bye.

Angelique
Thank you for listening to sex positive me if you like our content, please like subscribe and review us you can find us on social media platforms sex positive me or on our website at sexpositiveme.com You could also reach me on all social media platform as Miss Angelique Luna

John
And you can find me at John C Luna and if you like content like this and want some more, please subscribe to our monthly newsletter and thanks for listening.

Angelique
Bye

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