Let’s talk about Toxic Relationships. I’ve been in one (not now, of course!), you’ve been in one… Or if you haven’t been in one yourself, you’ve probably witnessed one of your close friends suffering through the toxicity.
It’s a terrible place to be.
Whether it’s you or a friend dealing with a toxic relationship, getting out should be the number one priority. However, once you get out, there is one important thing you must do before getting into another relationship.
Do you know what that is? I’ll share with you a reminder I got from the universe last week, when I wan’t even looking for it!
Last week, I was minding my own business, randomly scrolling through social media, when I came across this quote from the ‘Lessons Taught By Life” Facebook page.
Let that sink in.
Toxic Relationships: How to Recognize the Pattern
Sometimes, folks in toxic relationships don’t realize that they are actually IN one. This article from Hey, Sigmund covers ’15 Signs of a Toxic Relationship’ in an open and honest way that I really love. Give it a read and reflect on what resonates with you most.
For me, the sign that took my breath away was this one:
“Tip 12: Whatever you’re going through, I’m going through worse.”
Have you ever found yourself in one of those misery one-upping competitions with a current or past partner? It’s the literal worst: You’re feeling frustrated about a situation outside your relationship, so you turn to your partner for a sympathetic ear. However, that’s not exactly what they give you, is it?
Instead, your partner responds by telling you how much worse their situation is and, in general, how much more terrible their life is than yours. This might make you feel guilty for complaining about your situation in the first place and, in the future, you might not even bother to bring it up.
In short, that sucks and you deserve better. Hell, *I* deserved better… and I got it in John, and you know we are TOTAL #RelationshipGoals! However, there was one big thing I had to do before I allowed myself to get involved in another relationship, and I’m gonna let you in on this very important secret…
Here’s the Secret!
Heal yourself before getting into another relationship. If you don’t you’ll find yourself repeating the same patterns over and over. If you don’t take the time and introspection to figure out what’s inside of you that is attracted to toxic partners, you won’t ever attract anything other than toxic partners.
Sometimes our brains are just dumb, you know, so you gotta set it straight. (Or not straight, 😂 , you know we don’t judge ANYONE! 🏳️🌈). Doing the work to properly heal yourself can be intimidating and overwhelming and you probably don’t even know where or how to start.
That’s where I come in.
To quote my bio, I am a “Sex & Relationship Expert and Intuitive Life Coach who helps individuals and couples to gain confidence in communicating their sexual desires and needs”. These two things allow me to help you navigate your past relationships, examine what went wrong, and heal yourself so that you get the love you truly deserve.
What sets me apart from other relationship coaches, though is my Kink Aware Professional & Sex Educator certification. This means that I’ve been trained in the more *spicy*🌶 relationships and WILL NOT judge you not matter your sexual orientation, relationship dynamic or anything else. I am a kink-shame-free zone. 😹
Wanna see how I can help you manifest your future successful relationship? Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and let’s see what we can accomplish together!